A Mirrow or a Window?
![]()
“There is
no character without suffering…there is no such thing as a saint who has not
suffered.”[1]
How then can we use our suffering for good? Good is God’s intended purpose.[2]
It all depends on whether you are looking through a mirror or through a window.
When I look at a mirror the only thing I see is an image
of myself. Self-centeredness in suffering, in all of life, produces nothing good
and is a waste of our sorrow. Self-centeredness produces resentment, rebellion,
self-pity, depression, bitterness, discouragement and anger. It was never God’s
intention for our sufferings to be self-destructive[3]
but to work for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory.[4]
To focus on self by continually looking into a mirror is to waste our times of
sorrow.
Self-centeredness was never God’s intended purpose for
life is not about me. It is about using my
times of suffering for the glory of God and ministering to others. In so
doing, God ministers to our need and matures us.
The answer to our suffering and sorrow is not a mirror
but a window. The window allows us to look out, to look away from self. The
window is the way we “decentralize.” As we look through the window, the first
person that we should catch sight of is God. “All of life is intended to be a
pathway to God.” [Maclaren] He is both our greatest resource and the one who we
are to glorify in our sufferings. One way we glorify Him is to allow Him to use
our sufferings, sorrows as the means of developing in us the character of
Christ. In the development of the character of Christ it is not always the
character of the affliction that is important but the length of its continuation
and one’s reaction to it. Simply put the length of our suffering, our sorrow
depends on how long it takes for us to learn the lesson God intended for us to
learn.
The way we can glorify God through our sufferings, our sorrows is
to use them as a
means to minister to others. Our second view through the window is of others and
their sufferings. This may mean we could be under the burden of suffering and
sorrow for an entire lifetime. Our particular suffering may open doors of
ministry open to no one else. In the grand scheme of time and eternity, a
lifetime of suffering, sorrow is but “a season”[5],
“a moment”[6]
in light of eternity. How does God prepare us to use our suffering as a means of
helping others? Paul stated, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus
Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our
tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with
the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”[7] What we receive
from God is intended to be used by us in ministering to others in their times of need.
J. R. Miller wrote, “Whole, unbruised, unbroken men are of little use to
God.” What is involved in being broken by God? “One is not broken until all
resentment and rebellion against God and man is removed. One who resents, takes
offense, or retaliates against criticism and opposition or lack of appreciation
is unbroken. All self-justification and self-defense betrays an unbroken spirit.
All discontent and irritation with providential circumstances and situations
reveals unbrokeness. Genuine brokenness usually requires years of crushing,
heartache, and sorrow. Thus are self-will surrendered and deep degrees of
yieldedness and submission developed, without which there is little agape
love…Until one is broken, he is full of himself, his plans, his ambitions, his
value judgments. One is often so full of self that there is little room for more
of God.”[8]
It’s your choice – the mirror or the window. What you choose will
determine the quality of your life and ministry.
[1]
Billheimer, Paul E., Don’t Waste Your Sorrows, Christian
Literature Crusade, Ft. Washington, PA
[2]
Romans 8:28
[3]
James 1:2 - 5
[4]
2 Corinthians 4:17
[5]
1 Peter 1:6
[6]
2 Corinthians 4:17
[7]
2 Corinthians 1:3, 4
[8]
Billheimer, Paul E., Don’t Waste Your Sorrows, Christian Literature Crusade,
Ft. Washington, PA
7/01/10